Couples Counseling

By the time couples reach out to me, they often feel discouraged, disconnected, or tired of living this way. For more than 20 years, I’ve helped couples understand what’s happening beneath the surface, heal old wounds, and find a path forward.

“I don’t know what happened to us.”

A man and a woman sitting on opposite ends of a beige sofa in a living room, both looking at their phones, with the man holding a football. 
Rebuilding Connection

Some couples don’t have one big crisis. They just slowly drift. The fun fades, affection becomes rare, and life starts revolving around kids, work, and logistics. If you feel more like roommates than partners, couples counseling can help you understand how you got here, what’s getting in the way, and how to find your way back to each other - emotionally and physically.

“How can I ever trust again?”

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Affair Repair

Infidelity can leave couples feeling devastated, angry, and hopeless. But affairs do not automatically mean the marriage is over. With honesty, accountability, and clear guidance, many couples are able to rebuild trust and create a stronger, more connected bond.

Trust can be broken in other ways. Secrecy, withdrawal, addiction, and repeated hurt can also chip away at trust. Counseling can help.

“Why can’t you just listen to me?”

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Communication and Conflict Resolution

Many couples get stuck having the same arguments over and over again. One person feels unheard, the other feels criticized, and neither feels understood. Or sometimes, both partners stop bringing things up because they don’t want to rock the boat. Counseling can help you identify patterns that are keeping you stuck and practice healthier ways of interacting.

“Why bother anymore?”

A middle-aged woman and man sitting on a couch, facing away from each other with arms crossed, appearing upset or angry. 
Finding Your Way Out of Discouragement

Sometimes couples start to believe that nothing will change. Over time, disappointment and discouragement can begin to take over the relationship. At this point, you’re not even sure counseling can help. That’s ok. If you’re willing to find out, you might discover there’s still a way back to each other.

Some couples prefer the steady pace of weekly therapy, while others benefit from the focused format of a weekend intensive.

Therapy Models I Use With Couples

  • Gottman Method

    Research based approach

    Teaches tools for communication & conflict resolution

    Focus on improving friendship, compromise, and repair

  • Relational Life Therapy (RLT)

    Direct, action-oriented approach

    Addresses power dynamics & resentment

    Looks at childhood wounds and adaptations

  • Imago

    Structured dialogues and experiential exercises used to build connection

    Explores childhood experiences

    Focus on cultivating patience, empathy, and grace

  • Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

    Attachment focused

    Helps couples understand cycles and patterns of interaction

    Prioritizes emotional connection

Change is possible

Sometimes the work is challenging. Sometimes it's emotional. It’s usually not easy but it’s almost always worth it.

Most couples reach out when they know something needs to change. They might feel exhausted, doubtful, and not sure if it’s too late.

The good news is, relationships are often more resilient than people realize. Trust can be rebuilt. Old patterns can change. Connection can return. There may be more hope here than you think.